Be You

be-youI am pretty specific about what I like and my wedding makeup was no exception. I wanted a bright lipstick – something fun and bold. πŸ‘ 

When I spoke with the makeup artist on the phone – I was told that neutral, soft, ‘barely there makeup’ – looked best on brides. The florist said that neutral was innocent and soft – like a bride. πŸ‘°πŸ»
My photographer told me the pictures would look more heavenly if I wore barely there makeup. I tried to explain that it just didn’t feel right – it wasn’t me. πŸ™πŸΌ

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Surgeons: Feminine or Professional ?

We are surgeons and we love to operate. πŸ”§

I love this picture for a few reasons:πŸ’š

1. First and foremost – the smiles on our faces are because we just finished a very technically difficult laparoscopic surgery that took over 2 hours. It was extremely successful and we accomplished our goal. In just a few weeks, our patient will be able to move ahead and hopefully get pregnant naturally! There is nothing better than helping people make families – and this is why we do what we do! πŸ‘ŒπŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ’š#patientsfirst

2. This was our first surgery operating as co-surgeons and it was pretty clear that we have very similar surgical styles. No not fashion – but, surgical technique. πŸ’‰ One of the most under appreciated parts of surgery is how much teamwork is involved. β›ΉπŸΌβ›ΉπŸΌ
What makes surgery so much fun – is when you get to work with someone who can read your mind. They know exactly where you’re going to make your next incision and can anticipate what instrument you will need or at what angle you want the camera. And vice versa. It’s not that much different than any other team sport. Whether you are on the soccer field ⚽️or the tennis court🎾 – anticipating your teammate’s next step is KEY to winning.
The best teams do this flawlessly! When this happens in the OR – not only is it the GREATEST (endorphin) high – but, you are able to give your patients the best outcome! πŸ‘ŒπŸ»

3. Last, but CERTAINLY not least…this picture was taken minutes after we left the operating room – and as you can see,@mrsstanhisermd and I don’t hesitate to wear some of the more feminine things in life – even in the OR 😘 πŸ’‹. Yes. I wear lipstick in the OR (aaand, yes, sometimes it gets on my mask and all over my face.. Haha πŸ™„). But, I consider it one of my power tools πŸ”§.

It gives me the confidence and that little extra boost I need to “go get it”. πŸ‘ŒπŸ» Despite the fact that I am a surgeon – I am also a woman and I love it. I am serious about patient care, career oriented, maintain a professional appearance….AND I wear lipstick.πŸ‘„

Because, YES. You CAN be feminine AND professional. πŸ‘ 

Learning From Your Past To Help Build Your Future

Yesterday’s post was a little learn-from-your-past-aug-18down for my liking and my intention was not to have people feel bad about things they’ve done in the past. πŸ‘ž .

So. I’m going to create an addendum πŸ˜‰

Here is what I tell my patients: What’s done is done, the past is what makes us who we are today. As humans we are never perfect – we take the good with the not-so-good and this is what makes us all such colorful and compassionate individuals.

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Hey Guys, Is It Hard?

Is it hard for men? hard-august-16! πŸ’ͺ

YES it’s hard!Β It is reallyΒ hard to get people to engage and learn about fertility – especially when they might not be experiencingΒ it themselves (yet). πŸ’€πŸ’€

However, I was at a wedding this weekend with some of our closest friends from residency. The topic of my “new blog” came up. It was (of course) the women who wanted to know if they should freeze eggs or how long they should keep trying to get pregnant before they seek help.
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A Pregnant Woman’s Lucky Charm

helen-hartThis is my baby girl, Helen Hart. πŸ’š

When I was pregnant with her, I had just started my fellowship in Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility. I was really, really nervous about being pregnant and working with women who were coming to see me for infertility.
Would they want a doctor who was pregnant? I wore loose clothes and tried not to touch my belly at work. πŸ‘—

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Size DOES Matter!

does-size-matter-august-10One of the most important questions I ask my patients is – how big do you want your family to be? How many children were you hoping for? πŸ‘«πŸ‘«πŸ‘«πŸ‘«

Often we are focused on treating the immediate issue (having ONE child) – and we forget to ask about the big picture. But ultimately, we’d like to help patients achieve their ENTIRE family goal. πŸ‘¨β€πŸ‘¨β€πŸ‘¦πŸ‘©β€πŸ‘©β€πŸ‘¦πŸ’« When I’m determining what treatment option is best, an important question is whether the couple wants a big family. If so, I might be more apt to recommend IVF over IUI (intrauterine insemination). πŸ€”
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There’s More Than One Way To Build A Family

Families come in alipstick-comes-in-more-than-1-colourll mixes, matches, colors and variations. They are also made in more than one way. πŸ‘©πŸ»πŸ‘¨πŸ½πŸ‘©πŸΏπŸ‘¨πŸΌπŸ‘ΆπŸΎπŸ‘¦πŸΌ

What I love about my job is that I help make families for people who want them more than anything. πŸ‘«Β Whether it’s a heterosexual couple that has been trying for years, a same sex couple that needs donor sperm or egg, a situation where someone wants to avoid passing on a hereditary disease, or a single female that doesn’t have a partner but wants to start a family on her own ~ everyday I help bring people together to create families. πŸ’š


It doesn’t matter if you adopted an embryo, underwent IVF, used donor sperm – or had a gestational carrier. What matters is the love, effort and energy you put into making your family yours. 😍

Your family is by definition – what you want it to be, and nobody should tell you otherwise. πŸ’‹

How Much Sex Should You Have?

how-much-sex-do-you-haveWhy do we ask the questions we ask?!

Everyday I ask questions that make most patients uncomfortable, including “How much sex do you have”? I see them glance sideways at their partner and shrink into their seat.Β Is it ok to be saying it out loud?! πŸ™ŠπŸ™ˆ

YES! Please do!

We need to ask very direct, personal questions. It helps us to decide what diagnostic tests and treatment plan is best suited to your unique situation.🎈

When I ask my patients how much intercourse they have – what I’m really determining is if it is frequent enough to give the sperm and the egg a chance to meet!

If trying to get pregnant, how frequent is enough?!?!

Answer: 1-2 times per week (on most weeks) if you are not using ovulation predictor test kits or tracking your cycles.

Thirty is the New Twenty!

30isthenew20How many women out there are like me? You are career oriented but want a family too?! πŸŽ“πŸ‘¨β€πŸ‘©β€πŸ‘§β€πŸ‘¦

Women of today want it all – and we’re willing to work for it! πŸ‘ βš’

But, when it comes to having a family – our ovaries are in charge.

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Can Super Sperm Eat Through Birth Control?

Super SpermMy husband (left) once told me we didn’t have to worry about having babies… Because he had Super Sperm. ✌️ πŸ‘Š

The definition of Super Sperm (for those of us who aren’t familiar πŸ™„) : “The ability to conquer any birth control method – including the Mirena IUD”. He further informed me that Super Sperm “eat” their way through IUDs.

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